This wise book gives a deep voice to the inner silence that can stumble upon all of our relationships, whether with loved ones or partners in the workplace. A must for those who really want to be heard. Audrey Edwards, co-author of Children of the Dream: The Psychology of Black Success « We live in an era of ambiguity where misunderstandings and inaccuracy are epidemic. This is a time when people judge quickly and condemn just as quickly. Silent chords are a useful reminder that unverified certainty is almost always a mistake. But it`s first and foremost a book about clarity and how to get it. At a time when we are desperately trying to clarify the rules of approval, where many remain confused as to whether or not means no, Silent Agreements is extremely instructive. It is a contemporary and valuable contribution to our mutual understanding, not only of each other, but also of our collective self. For navigating through the often tacit assumptions that govern relationships between family members, friends, lovers, spouses and colleagues, this is the perfect guide. – Ellis Cose, author of The Rage of a Privileged Class and The End of Anger » Silent Chords: What a provocative idea! The authors clearly describe the type of silent chords that can be problematic at home, at work, and at play, and they give useful and easy-to-implement tips for identifying and overcoming those high expectations that might otherwise derail our relationships.
Matt Bloom, associate professor at the University of Notre Dame, at twenty-one years old, a lively, courageous young woman with dreams and ambitions, Sarah is going through the same cycle once again. She meets John, an honest and upright city dweller whom she considers a safe choice. She implicitly agrees to stay with him so that she can live her first adult relationship without too much challenge or risk.